Domestic Family & Sexual Violence

Understanding Domestic, Family, and Sexual Violence (DFSV)

Domestic, Family, and Sexual Violence can happen to anyone, regardless of age, gender, culture, or background. It is never your fault, and it is never acceptable.

This section will help you understand the dynamics of abuse, why leaving is difficult, and practical ways to protect yourself and begin healing.

⚠️ What is Domestic, Family, and Sexual Violence?

Domestic Violence:

• Any behaviour by a partner, ex-partner, or family member to control, intimidate, or harm you.
• Can be physical, emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, or social.

Family Violence:

• Violence or abuse within a family, including parents, children, siblings, or extended relatives.
• May involve physical harm, emotional manipulation, neglect, or coercion.

Sexual Violence:

• Any unwanted sexual activity or behaviour.
• Includes assault, harassment, exploitation, or coercion.
• Can occur in intimate relationships, families, workplaces, or public spaces.

Key Point: Abuse is about power and control, not love or conflict. No one deserves to be hurt.

💔 Why People Stay or Struggle to Leave

Many people remain in abusive situations for very human reasons:

• Fear for Safety: Concern for themselves or children.
• Financial Dependence: Housing, money, or resources.
• Hope for Change: Belief that the abuser will improve.
• Social Pressure: Fear of judgment or shame.
• Trauma Bonding: Emotional attachment formed through cycles of fear, relief, and control.
• Confusion & Self-Doubt: Manipulation makes you question your memory, perception, or reality.

Remember: Staying does not mean you are weak. Abusers are skilled at creating fear, dependence, and confusion.

🛡 How to Protect Yourself

Safety is the first priority. Small steps can make a big difference:

• Create a Safety Plan: Identify safe spaces, emergency contacts, and escape routes.
• Secure Your Information: Check for tracking devices, secure passwords, and digital safety.
• Seek Support: Trusted friends, family, counsellors, or community services.
• Legal Protections: Police reports, restraining orders, or legal advice if needed.
• Document Incidents: Keep records of abuse, threats, or harassment if safe to do so.
• Financial Safety: Save money when you can – even a small amount builds independence.

Safety is your right. Planning ahead gives you control and peace of mind.

🌱 Healing and Recovery

Recovery is a journey. Healing takes time, patience, and support.

Steps to begin healing:

• Therapy & Counselling: Work with someone you trust to process trauma.
• Reconnect with Yourself: Rediscover hobbies, values, and strengths.
• Build Support Networks: Friends, support groups, or community organisations.
• Learn About Abuse: Understanding dynamics helps you make safe decisions.
• Set Boundaries: Protect your emotional and physical space.

Healing is not linear. Be gentle with yourself – your feelings are valid.

🚀 Moving Toward Freedom and Empowerment

You deserve to live free from fear, harm, and control. Taking steps toward safety and independence allows you to reclaim your life:

• Trust your instincts – they guide you toward safety.
• Take one step at a time – even small steps are progress.
• Seek help – you do not need to face abuse alone.

You are not alone. You deserve safety, respect, and a future free from violence.